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submit to his caprices and whims, than the elements will yield to his wishes. Early restraint is therefore an important duty, which parents owe to their children.'

CHAPTER IV.

CULTIVATE A HABIT OF SELF-RESTRAINT.

'Animum rege, qui, nisi paret Imperat.'-HOR.

'Curb thy soul,

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And check thy rage, which must be ruled or rule.'-CREECH. 1. MAN, as a moral agent, is capable of mental as well as bodily effort, and has power over his own actions, to do or leave undone many things. necessity is laid upon him to swear, or strike, or rage; and although his propensity is to err, it is his privilege to exercise reason. Dr. Watts' lines for children were not designed to be forgotten on attaining man's estate :—

Let dogs delight to bark and bite,
For God hath made them so;
Let bears and lions growl and fight,
For 'tis their nature too.

But children you should never let
Such angry passions rise;

Your little hands were never made
To tear each other's eyes.

1 I prefer,-For SIN hath made them so.

Human nature is brutalized by sin; but man is pre-eminently distinguished from the brute by the endowment of an understanding and a conscience. The latter convicts him of wrong from right, while the former serves as a guide to his volitions and actings. If then he follow the depraved incitements of his nature, he at once merges into an equality with the irrational animal, instead of acting upon the suggestion of his better judgment. Self-restraint then is absolutely indispensable in the management of our tempers.

2. The example of Mr. Adam is worthy to be recorded and imitated. A clergyman who resided in his family for more than six years, and had the opportunity of seeing him at all times and in a variety of circumstances, writes thus, I do not recollect ever to have seen his temper ruffled above once or twice in all the time that I lived with him. When any thing happened of a trying or provoking kind, he used to turn upon his heel, and say nothing till he had thought it over, and examined whether there was indeed a just cause for anger or not. But this conquest of himself was not attained but by hard conflicts, and in the exercise of much labour, watchfulness and prayer. He was forced to dispute his ground inch by inch, and would often say,-If ever grace was planted on a crabstock, it was surely in me.'

3. I retain a lively recollection of the sweating days when I hacked Latin and Greek at school. My stupidity was of the first order; and, thanks

1 I should think this process of examination would be a means of greatly allaying the anger, cause or no cause; for the feeling of anger must precede the effort to restrain it.

2 See his book on Private Thoughts.

to providence, my tutor's patience was of the first order, for the like of it I have seldom seen. He was naturally of a quick temper; but I have often seen him, when quite wound up by one or other of us, rise from his chair and pace to and fro, till he regained his fortitude. Sometimes he would walk into the garden, or retire into another room "for a little moment," and by such acts of selfrestraint he evidently recovered his self-possession.

4. The venerable Newton, of Olney, was naturally of a warm temperament; but by the influence of divine grace which was signally developed in him, and by the constant exercise of prayer and watching, he was enabled to maintain that uniform and admirable equanimity of temper by which he was distinguished.1

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5. Gilly, in his life of the distinguished and laborious Neff, writes, His temper, naturally violent and unbending, was completely subdued.' 6. The life of General Burn is a fine and interesting exhibition of the power of divine grace subduing the frowardness of the natural temper, and rendering him a truly patient and amiable character.

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7. Addison writes of Lord Somers as follows,→ One of the greatest souls now in the world is the most subject by nature to anger, and yet so famous for a conquest of himself this way that he is the known example when you talk of temper and command of a man's self. To contain the spirit of anger is the worthiest discipline we can put ourselves to. When a man has made any progress this way, a frivolous fellow in a passion is to him

1 See the Life of the Rev. John Newton, by Cecil; and Memoir in Christian Guardian, for 1835.

as contemptible as a froward child. It ought to be the study of every man for his own quiet and peace. When he stands combustible and ready to flame upon every thing that touches him, life is as easy to himself as it is to all about him.'

. 8. The renowned Cyrus, king of Persia, is worthy to be revered as much for the excellencies of his character as for the grandeur of his exploits. He was possessed of all the qualities requisite to form a great man; wisdom, moderation, courage, magnanimity, noble sentiments, a wonderful ability in managing men's tempers, and gaining their affections He appeared the same, that is, always great, even in the slightest matters. Being assured of his greatness, of which real merit was the foundation and support, he thought of nothing more than to render himself affable and easy of access: and whatever he seemed to lose by this condescending, humble demeanour, was abundantly compensated by the cordial affection and sincere respect it procured him from his people... Cyrus was beloved, because he himself had a love for others: for has a man any friends, or does he deserve to have any, when he himself is void of friendship? Nothing is more interesting than to see in Xenophon the manner in which Cyrus lived and conversed with his friends, always preserving as much dignity as was requisite to keep up a due decorum, and yet infinitely removed from that illjudged haughtiness which deprives the great of the most innocent and agreeable pleasure in life, that of conversing freely and sociably with persons of merit, though of an inferior station. ... Cicero

1 Habes amicos, quia amicus ipse es. Paneg. Trajan.

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