Gathering the Missing Pieces in an Adopted LifeBroadman & Holman, 1995 - 201 pages The author's successful search for her birthfamily brought answers to questions she had asked since childhood. Gathering the Missing Pieces in an Adopted Life guides anyone who might have some connection to the adoption process: adopted individuals who wonder whether finding missing relatives is right for them, adoptive parents who struggle with how to share information with their children, and birthfamily members who wonder whether they have the right to know children from whom they were once parted. Although the book is partially autobiographical, it includes stories of at least sixty other individuals who have some adoption connection. While highlighting the positive outcomes of adoptive searches, Moore also references the various challenges and pitfalls that can occur during this emotionally charged process. For adoptive parents, the book helps explain why some adoptees must search: they have an insatiable need that evades most persons who have grown up knowing their biological families. For birthparents, the book features the stories of several who have been found and how the process filled in important gaps for them as well. It shows how the sometimes lonely, staggering decisions that they made earlier impact their lives for years to come. Each chapter concludes with a handy reference on how the various members of the adoption "triad" -- birthfamily, adoptees, and adopted persons -- can relate to and use the information. Moore also gives attention to the rapidly changing laws, regulations, and expectations surrounding adoptions, and she includes a thorough listing of references, agencies, and other adoption resources. |
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... adoptive parents demanding to know , " How could you ? And how could your parents let you do such a thing ? " Interviewed by the New York Times about his relationship with his adoptive parents after he found his birth father , Bill ...
... adoptive mother of two preschoolers , said she believes that adoptive parents have " an extra layer of love for their children because of the time you waited for them , ” and that in itself may be what causes adoptive parents initially ...
... parent to help ease his or her pain and your need . After a reunion , try to avoid painting to your adoptive parents a picture of a birth mother or birth father who ' can do no wrong . " Adoptive parents often secretly feel concerned ...