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drawing-room, or even what they have gathered from servants. Or they do this, by relating tales to them of their own family history and circumstances, which it is undesirable that they should have heard. Self-esteem and self-idolatry assume such various phases, that it is difficult to trace them through all their manifestations.

A child gets confused notions of right and wrong not unfrequently by hearing elder persons, it may be parents, relating stories of things which they did in their youth, turning into joke those sins which ought to be the subject of deep repentance—as if a distance of time separated you and your doings, and made you no longer responsible for the past.

In some families, besides the regular pupils, there are daughters who have left the school-room, but who are to share some portion of the governess's instructions. It may be to read with her French or Italian, or to take lessons in music or drawing. Much judgment is required in these cases, for the elder sisters are apt to assume authority over the younger, and to interfere with them, either by spoiling or punishing them, whilst they themselves are under no control. The wisdom of a teacher will be here shown in endeavouring to obtain a useful influence over them, and to make her society and conversation agreeable, but at the same time, the younger pupils must not be neglected for the more pleasant work of teaching their sisters.

How much good may be done in forming the

mind of a girl just entering on that perilous period of passing into life, full of bright hopes and ignorant of the dangers which surround her. How important, then, to give her sound views of the true value of life, and, perhaps, to be the means of making her a real blessing to her family. An intelligent governess may find her labours cheered by such intercourse, and many a young person has had reason to bless God for the benefit she has thus received. But she must be careful in no way to awaken the jealousy of the mother, by endeavouring to engross the affections of her children. Some weak parents are apt to suppose that this must be the aim of those who thus exceed the positive duties they were engaged to fulfil. The deepest reverence for parental authority should always be cherished, but it should not be for ever appealed to, for this lessens the delegated authority which should be considered as equivalent, because appointed by those to whom it lawfully belonged.

Neither should children be threatened at every outbreak, with calling their parents in to inflict a severer punishment than the teacher likes to venture upon herself. Much of her power must depend on the cordial co-operation of the mother, but where the latter has satisfied herself on good grounds that her children are in hands to which she can conscientiously confide them, all interference is to be deprecated.

A disgusting mode of pleasing their employers, is adopted by some ladies to gain their own ends, which is that of praising their pupils to them, whether they deserve it or not. The same persons would not hesitate to speak slightly of those whom they thus imposed upon.

The duties we have next to describe are those to the father of the family—and these it is very important faithfully to fulfil. An unobtrusive gentle demeanour is essential to propriety, and all attempts at seeking notice or admiration intolerable.

When opportunity occurs, valuable information

may be obtained by asking advice in the selection of books, and intercourse with an intelligent man cannot fail to be improving. But to force conversation, or to take the lead in it, or to show off what little is known, cannot fail to disgust. To keep in the back ground is the safest plan, and to wait to be brought forward, rather than to force yourself into a place, which it may

be necessary hereafter to quit.

The position of a governess relatively to the servants is generally decided by the treatment she receives from the master and mistress ; their tone is copied in the kitchen. Some ladies suffer from want of due attention and respect, because the domestics regard them as scarcely their superiors in rank, and others have brought this treatment upon themselves by admitting them to undue familiarity, and treating them with confidence and others again from haughtiness and want of consideration.

After all, in whatever state of life we placed, there are duties and difficulties peculiar to


it, and we can only fulfil the one, and overcome the other by singleness of mind, and perseverance in earnest prayer; by acknowledging God in all our ways, that He may direct our path. Each trial has its own appointed end to accomplish: let us see that we do not counteract that purpose by our waywardness. Let us regard it as God’s messenger, and then, like the wood cast into the bitter waters, it will not only heal, but make them sweet and refreshing.




“ To educate young people truly, we must give them inductive habits of thought, and teach them to deduce from a few facts a law which makes plain all similar ones, and so acquire the habit of extracting from every story somewhat of its kernel of spiritual meaning. But again, to educate them truly, we must ourselves have faith; we must believe that in every one there is a spiritual eye, which can perceive those great principles when they are once fairly presented to itThat in all there are some noble instincts, some pure yearnings after wisdom, and taste, and usefulness, which if we only appeal to them trustfully through the examples of the past, and the excitements of the present, will wake into conscious life. Above all, both pupils and teachers must never forget that all these things were written for their examples— that though circumstances and creeds, schools and tastes may alter, yet the heart of man, and the duty of man, remaiu unchanged.”—Rev. CHARLES KINGSLEY: Introductory Lecture at Queen's College.


T has just been admitted that every state of life

those peculiar to itself, and to the character of the person placed in it. It may be well to enter upon this subject more fully. To some, their relative position, arising from the tempers of those they dwell amongst, is “ the crook in the lot;" to others, their own mental trials are the hardest to be borne; and others again, have to struggle with poverty, or very contracted means. Each

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