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that the poor especially might very well dispense with bad tempers, as their circumstances are generally sufficiently trying from their condition. I have sometimes felt no very agreeable sensations in marrying the poor, many of whom had not a bed, and in several cases, not money to pay the fees.

11. Lothario was a hard-working labourer: he had saved sufficient to set up house, and soon after marriage, he took a small farm. His wife was a strong-built woman, and capable of any exertions, but intolerably idle, negligent, and dirty, with the usual accompaniment of bad temper. When he had occasion to go from home, or take a job of work at a distance, she would not take the least care of the land or the cows. He soon lost all he had earned, and returned to a mean cottage and to common day labour. He now began to visit the public houses; and the next report was that they quarrelled. One day I was sent for in haste, not knowing for what purpose; and on my arrival I found report true. With as much delicacy as possible I mildly remonstrated, and desired each separately would tell me the cause of their unhappiness. The man wept much. The wife said he had been spending his money, and neglecting his family. He answered that he had always done the best he could for his family, and had thrown into her apron several pounds only two nights before-his hard-earned wages during a few weeks from home; and that, as to going to the public-house, he said he was in fact driven to it, for she afforded him no comfort in his home; that on his arrival the other night, tired and hungry, he had asked her for something to eat, but she was sullen and

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would not prepare it.' I then turned to the wife to hear what reply she would make; but though she could talk freely enough when I first entered, she was now silent as one convicted and condemned; indeed, I well knew she could not deny the charge; for I had always found her house and herself in a dirty disordered condition, and the children ragged and sickly through neglect. She would beg clothes for them, but would neither wash nor mend; and she would gossip to other houses and leave the little ones exposed to fire and water. 1 have seen her seated close to the grate when the cinders have reached almost to the head of the room. Can it be any wonder then that a man so circumstanced, and with a wife thus wasteful and negligent, dirty and saucy, should have recourse to the public house? He was, in a sense, as he expressed, driven to it; and I fear thousands more are thus driven. I do not pretend to deny that there were faults on both sides; I speak of facts only as I saw them through a course of years. We may again exclaim, temper is every thing.

12. On the other hand, I know a couple who are as happy as poor people can well be. The man is a collier, and, like persons in his situation, is exposed to great hardships, having to go to work by three or four o'clock in the morning over bleak moors. When I have occasionally gone to his cottage, a little before his return, it has pleased me much to see the table spread with a coarse clean cloth, and victuals in readiness; or a plate with bits of mutton or bacon before the bars, and potatoes on the fire; or the tea things would be set and the kettle boiling. The good

man coming in tired, wet, and black as coal would make him, and bearing a heavy lump of that article on his back, meets with a smiling welcome; the wife would run to help him off with his burden, and the children would prattle with delight— O, daddy is come.' He would then apply to the pail of water which always stood in readiness; and afterward sat down to his baggin, as it is called, with as good an appetite and as easy a mind as a king might envy.

13. To a man thus circumstanced, the public house has no attractions. His comfort is studied; his earnings are economized; his wife and children are clean and decently clad; his fire-side is comfortable, and he can smoke his pipe in peace. Who are his Majesty's ministers, who are whigs or who are tories, never concerns him. Having to rise early, they must needs retire early to bed. When I have seen the cottage shut up at eight o'clock, I could not but mark the difference in many others, and particularly the public houses, in which I have found numbers of colliers and labourers; some, perhaps, through the discomforts of home, and others, no doubt, from their own depraved choice.

14. These, you must be aware, are characters of real and every day life; and what I wish should be particularly observed, is the striking difference between two families in similar station. The former commenced life with fair prospects as working people; but were soon reduced to wretchedness through idleness and surly tempers; the latter were in the hardest condition, and yet lived most happily, proving that temper is every thing.

15. I believe it is very unusual for the married

to thank the clergyman who tied the knot; it is sometimes sung, The parson is to blame, for he tied the knot.' I can however mention one case, and only one. Many years ago a poor man put in the banns, which were objected, which circumstance occasioned a few weeks postponement of the union. About four years afterwards, a man came up to me with an open smiling countenance, whom I did not at first recognize. He addressed me thus-Sir, you remember marrying me, don't you?' Pausing for a moment, I replied, "O yes, it was you that had some trouble over it-I hope you have not repented it?' With emphatic tone and joy of countenance he answered, 'O no, Sir, I am very happy, and I thought whenever I saw you I would thank you for what you did for me.'

CHAPTER III.

TEMPER AS INCULCATED IN THE SACRED SCRIPTURES.

1. THE inspired volume not only gives a correct description of human nature and its conflicting passions, but it also supplies the best maxims for our guidance. All sensible men will allow an appeal to this divine oracle, as they must admit it to be the only satisfactory rule of all virtue, and the authentic standard of all true morals; albeit I am not preaching mere morality as the way to salvation, not having so learned the gospel.

2. I have already alluded to that excellent passage in Peter, "The ornament of a meek and quiet spirit which is in the sight of God of great price,' on which I will now offer a few remarks. It is a short but comprehensive description of the Christian temper, its character, and its estimate. A meek and quiet spirit must be, first, of immense importance to ourselves, and to all around us. Secondly, it is a real and most precious ornament in man or woman, rich or poor, far beyond any outward appendage whatever. Thirdly, it is a comfortable and encouraging consideration that such a spirit is highly esteemed of God: he ap

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