IT IS A FOUL TONGUE THAT GIVES FORTH FALSEHOOD. iv. Appear in full dress. vi. Do not wear rings on the outside of your gloves. vii. Avoid an excess of jewellery. viii. Do not select the same partner frequently. ix. Distribute your attentions as much as possible. x. Pay respectful attention to elderly persons. xi. Be cordial when serving refreshments, but not importunate. xii. If there are more dancers than the room will accommodate, do not join in every dance. xiii. In leaving a large party it is unnecessary to bid farewell, and improper to do so before the guests. xiv. A Paris card of invitation to an evening party usually implies that you are invited for the season. xv. In balls and large parties there should be a table for cards, and two packs of cards placed upon each table. xvi. Chess and all unsociable games should be avoided. xvii. Although many persons do not like to play at cards except for a stake, the stakes agreed to at parties should be very trifling, so as not to create excitement or discussion. xviii. The host and hostess should look after their guests, and not confine their attentions. They should, in fact, assist those chiefly who are the least known in the room. xix. Avoid political and religious discussions. If you have a "hobby," keep it to yourself. xx. After dancing, conduct your partner to a seat. xxi. Resign her as soon as her next partner advances. (For the Figures of Dances, consult 243 the Index. See HINTS UPON ETIQUETTE, No. 1696.) 1710. Marriage Arrangements. 1711. SPECIAL LICENCES. Special licences are dispensations from the ordinary rule, under which marriages can only take place canonically in the parish church, or other places duly licensed for that purpose. They can only be obtained from the Metropolitan or archbishop of the province, and often with no small difficulty, not being readily granted; and when obtained the fees are about £50. 1712. COмMON LICENCES enable persons of full age, or minors with consent of parents or guardians, to be married in the church of the parish in which one of them has resided for three weeks. They are procured from Doctors' Commons, or from any surrogate, at the cost of about £2 10s. 1713. BANNS must be published three times in the parish church, in each place where the persons concerned reside. The clerk is applied to on such occasions; his fee varies from 1s. 6d. upwards. When the marriage ceremony is over, the parties repair to the vestry, and enter their names in the parish registry. The registry is signed by the clergyman and the witnesses present, and a certificate of the registry is given to the bridegroom. The charge for a certificate of marriage is 2s. 6d., and the clergyman's fee varies according to circumstances. The clerk will at all times give information thereupon; and it is best for a friend of the bridegroom to attend to the pecuniary arrangements. 1714. MARRIAGE BY REGISTRATION. -An Act was passed in the reign of William the Fourth, by which it was rendered legal for persons wishing to be married by a civil ceremony, to give notice of their intention to the Registrar of Marriages in their district or districts. Three weeks' notice is necessary, to give which the parties call, separately or together, at the office of the registrar, who enters their names in a book. When the time of notice has 244 IF YOU DESIRE TO KNOW, DO NOT FEAR TO ASK. expired, it is only necessary to give the registrar an intimation, on the previous day, of your intention to attend at his office on the next day, and complete the registration. The ceremony consists of merely answering a few questions, and making the declaration that you take each other to live as husband and wife. The fee amounts only to a few shillings, and in this form no wedding ring is required, though it is usually placed on in the presence of the persons assembled. The married couple receive a certificate of marriage, which is in every respect father places himself behind, with mother, if she attends. 1718. THE CHIEF BRIDESMAID 00 pies a place on the left of the brid hold her gloves, and handkerchief, flowers; her companions range the selves on the left. If any difficu occur from forgetfulness, the vest woman can set everything right. of fees at every church, to which t parties married can add if they please 1720. WHEN THE CEREMONY CONCLUDED, the bride, taking the brid groom's arm, goes into the vestry, th others following; signatures are the affixed, and a registration made, afte which the married pair enter the carriage, and proceed to the breakfas every one else following. 1719. REMEMBER TO TAKE LICENCE AND THE RING WITH Y The fee to a clergyman is according the rank and fortune of the bridegro the clerk expects five shillings, and lawful. trifle should be given to the vestr 1715. WEDDING DRESS.-It is im-woman or sexton. There is a fixed s possible to lay down specific rules for dress, as fashions change, and tastes differ. The great art consists in selecting the style of dress most becoming to the person. A stout person should adopt a different style from a thin person; a tall one from a short one. Peculiarities of complexion, and form of face and figure, should be duly regarded; and in these matters there is no better course than to call in the aid of any respectable milliner and dressmaker, who will be found ready to give the best advice. The bridegroom should simply appear in full dress, and should avoid everything eccentric and broad in style. The bridesmaids should always be made aware of the bride's dress before they choose their own, which should be determined by a proper harmony with the former. 1721. THE ORDER OF RETURN FRON CHURCH differs from the above only in the fact that the bride and bridegroom now ride together, the bride being his left, and a bridesmaid and a grooms man, or the father of the bride, occu pying the front seats of the carriage. one 1722. THE WEDDING BREAKFAST having been already prepared, the wed ding party return thereto. If a large party, the bride and bridegroom occupy 1716. THE ORDER OF GOING TO seats in the centre of the long table, and CHURCH is as follows:-The BRIDE, the two extremities should be presided accompanied by her father, not unfre- over by elderly relatives, if possible quently her mother, and uniformly by from each family. Everybody should a bridesmaid, occupies the first carriage. endeavour to make the occasion as happy The father hands out the bride, and as possible. One of the senior members leads her to the altar, the mother and of either the bride or bridegroom's the bridesmaid following. After them family should, some time before the come the other bridesmaids, attended by breakfast has terminated, rise, and in s the groomsmen, if there are more than brief but graceful manner, propose one. the "Health and happiness of the wedded 1717. THE BRIDEGROOM Occupies the pair.' It is much better to drink their and, last carriage with the principal grooms- healths together than separately; man-an intimate friend, or brother. after a brief interval, the bridegroom He follows, and stands facing the altar, should return thanks, which he may do with the bride at his left hand. The without hesitation, since no one looks TRUTH IS THE HIDDEN GEM WE ALL SHOULD DIG FOR. 245 a speech upon such an occasion. A stances of the married couple. Homewords, feelingly expressed, are all loving Englishmen and women may find is required. The breakfast gene- much to admire and enjoy without y concludes with the departure of ranging abroad. Those whose time is happy pair upon their wedding tour. somewhat restricted we recommend to 723. CARDS.-A newly married sojourn at Tunbridge Wells,-Mount ple send out cards immediately after Ephraim is especially to be selected, ceremony to their friends and ac--and thence the most delightful intance, who, on their part, return excursions may be made to different her notes or cards of congratulation -the event. As soon as the lady is tled in her new home, she may pect the calls of her acquaintance; which it is not absolutely necessary remain at home, although politeness quires that they should be returned as on as possible. But, having performed is, any further intercourse may be oided (where it is deemed necessary) a polite refusal of invitations. Where rds are to be left, the number must determined according to the various embers of which the family called pon is composed. For instance, where ere are the mother, aunt, and daughters he latter having been introduced to ociety), three cards should be left. Recently, the custom of sending cards as been in a great measure disconinued, and instead of this, the words No cards" are appended to the ordiaary newspaper advertisement, and the nnouncement of the marriage, with his addition, is considered all sufficient. 1724. RECEPTION.-When the married pair have returned, and the day of reception arrives, wedding cake and wine are handed round, of which every one partakes, and each expresses some kindly wish for the newly married couple. The bride ought not to receive visitors without a mother, or sister, or some friend being present, not even if her husband be at home. Gentlemen who are in professions, or have Government appointments, cannot always await the arrival of visitors; when such is the case, some old friend of the family should represent him, and proffer an apology for his absence. parts of the country; those who like sketching, botanizing, and collecting sea-weeds, will find ample opportunities for each; those who like old ruins and time-hallowed places may reach them without difficulty. Dover, Canterbury, Folkestone, and Tatwood Castle are all within reach, and what places are more deeply interesting, not only in respect of scenery, but historic associations? Cornwall and Devonshire, the Isle of Wight, &c., are each delightful to the tourist; and the former is now accessible by railway almost as far as the Land's End. The scenery of the north of Devon, and of both coasts of Cornwall, is especially beautiful. North Wales offers a delightful excursion; the lakes of Westmoreland and Cumberland; the lakes of Killarney, in Ireland; also the magnificent scenery of the Scottish lakes and mountains. To those who wish for a wider range, France, Germany, Switzerland, and the Rhine offer charms which cannot be surpassed. 1726. WEDDING CAKES. Four pounds of fine flour, well dried; four pounds of fresh butter; two pounds of loaf sugar; a quarter of a pound of mace, pounded and sifted fine; the same of nutmegs. To every pound of flour add eight eggs; wash four pounds of currants, let them be well picked and dried before the fire; blanch a pound of sweet almonds, and cut them lengthwise very thin; a pound of citron; one pound of candied orange; the same of candied lemon; half a pint of brandy. When these are made ready, work the butter with your hand to a cream, then beat in the sugar a quarter of an hour; beat the whites of the eggs to a very strong 1725. THE WEDDING TOUR must froth; mix them with the sugar and depend upon the tastes and circum-butter; beat the yolks half an hour at 246 WRITE YOUR OWN HISTORY DAILY. least, and mix them with the cake; then put in the flour, mace, and nutmeg, keep beating it well till your oven is ready-pour in the brandy, and beat the currants and almonds lightly in. Tie three sheets of white paper round the bottom of your hoop to keep it from running out; rub it well with butter; put in your cake; lay the sweetmeats in layers, with cake between each layer; and after it is risen and coloured cover it with paper before your oven is stopped up. It will require three hours to bake properly. 1727. ALMOND ICING FOR WEDDING CAKE. Beat the whites of three eggs to a strong froth, pulp a pound of Jordan almonds very fine with rose water, mix them, with the eggs, lightly together; put in by degrees a pound of common loaf sugar in powder. When the cake is baked enough, take it out, and lay on the icing; then put it in to brown. 1728. SUGAR ICING FOR WEDDING CAKE. Beat two pounds of double refined sugar with two ounces of fine starch, sift the whole through a gauze sieve, then beat the whites of five eggs with a knife upon a pewter dish for half an hour; beat in the sugar a little at a time, or it will make the eggs fall, and injure the colour; when all the sugar is put in, beat it half an hour longer, and then lay on your almond icing, spreading it even with a knife. If put on as soon as the cake comes out of the oven, it will harden by the time the cake is cold. 1729. MARRIAGES OF DISSENTERS may be solemnized at any place of worship duly licensed, and in accordance with the forms of their worship. In some cases, the service of the Church of England is read, with slight additions or modifications. The clerk of the place of worship should be applied to for information. 1730. Christenings may be performed either in accordance with the rites of the Established Church, or of Dissenting congregations; the time of birth, and the name of every child, T must also be registered. The fees. for christenings vary with a varie circumstances. Particulars should each case be obtained of the cler the place of worship. It is usua make a christening the occasio festivity; but not in such a manner to require special remark. The part and god-parents of the child appear church at the appointed hour. I child is carried by the nurse. dress of the parties attending a chr ening should be what may be ter demi-costume, or half-costume; but infant should be robed in the choic manner that the circumstances w allow. It is usual for the sponsors present the child with a gift to be pre served for its future years. Silver spoons, a silver knife and fork, a clasp bible, a silver cup, and other su articles, are usually chosen. It usual, also, to give a trifling present to the nurse. 1731. REGISTRATION OF BIRTHS.The law of registration requires the parents, or occupiers of houses in which the births happen, to register such births at the registrar's office within sit weeks after the date thereof. For registration, within the time specified, no charge is made. But after the expira tion of the forty-second day from the birth, a fee of seven shillings and sixpenc must be paid. After the expiration of six months from the date of the birth, no registration is allowed. It is therefore most important, immediately after the birth of a child, for the father, or the occupier of the house in which the birth took place, to go to the office of the deputy registrar, residing in the district, and communicate the following particulars : 1. Date when born. 4. Name of the father. 5. Name and maiden name of the mother. 6. Rank or profession of the father. 7. Signature, description, and residence of the person giving the information. 8. Date of the registration. THERE IS NO DARKNESS SO DEEP AS THAT OF THE MIND. 247 compel the closing of graveyards in populous neighbourhoods. Besides which, the new cemeteries which are now springing up in all important localities are so economical and appropriate to be the long resting-places of the dead, that few people of good taste would cling to the old practice of burying in crowded churchyards in the midst of the dwellings of the living. 1732. BAPTISMAL NAME. If any hild born in England, whose birth has been registered, shall, within six months of such registration, have any name given to it in baptism other than that originally registered, such baptismal name may be added to the previous registration, if, within seven days of such baptism, application be made to the registrar by whom the child was originally registered. For this purpose a certificate of the baptism must be procured of the clergyman, for which a fee of one shilling must be paid. This certificate must be taken to the regis-five days after such death, give notice trar, who will charge another fee of one shilling for adding the baptismal name to the original registration. 1733. CHOICE OF NAMES.--To choose names for children, parents should consult the list of names (No. 901, p. 137). 1734. CHILDREN BORN AT SEA. If any child of an English parent shall be born at sea on board a British vessel, the captain or commanding officer shall make a minute of the particulars touching the birth of the child, and shall, on the arrival of the vessel at any part of the kingdom, or sooner, by any other opportunity, send a certificate of the birth through the post-office (for which no postage will be charged), to the Registrar General, General Register Office, London. 1735. Funerals and Registration of Deaths.-It is always best to place the direction of a funeral under a respectable undertaker, with the precaution of obtaining his estimate for the expenses, and limiting him to them. le can best advise upon the observances to be attended to, since the style of funerals differs with the station of the deceased's family, and is further modified by the customs of particular localities, and even by religious 1737. REGISTRATION OF DEATHS.The father or mother of any child that dies, or the occupier of a house in which any person may die, must, within to the registrar of the district. Some person present at the death should at the same time attend and give to the registrar an account of the circumstances or cause of the death, to the best of his or her knowledge or belief. Such person must sign his or her name, and give the place of abode at which he or she resides. The following are the particulars required : 1. Date of death. 4. Rank or profession. - 6. Signature, description, and residence of the person giving the information. 7. Date of the registration. 1738. PERSONS DYING AT SEA.The commander of any British vessel, on board of which a death occurs at sea, must act the same as in a case of birth. 1739. CERTIFICATES OF DEath. Every registrar must deliver to the undertaker, without fee, a certificate of the death, which certificate shall be delivered to the officiating minister. No dead body can be buried without such certificate, under a penalty of £10. 1740. OBSERVANCES OF DEATHS AND FUNERALS.-It is usual, when a death takes place, to communicate it immediately, upon mourning note-paper, to every principal member of the family, and to request them to notify the |