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EOPLE of culture can be recognized at once.

They have a certain dignity about them, a certain calm assurance which makes people respect them. It is because they know exactly what to do and say on every occasion that they are able to mingle with the most highly cultivated people and yet be entirely at ease.

But there are some people who are never at ease among strangers. Because they do not know the right thing to do at the right time, they are awkward, self-conscious. They are afraid to accept invitations because they do not know what to wear, how to acknowledge introductions, how to make people like them. They are timid in the presence of celebrated people because they do not know when to rise and when to remain seated, when to speak and when to remain silent, when to offer one's chair and when not to. They are always uncomfortable and embarrassed when they are in the company of cultured men and women.

It is only by knowing definitely, without the slightest doubt, what to do, say, write and wear on all occasions, under all conditions, that one is able to be dignified, charming and well-poised at all times.

How Etiquette Gives Charm and Poise Etiquette means good manners. It means knowing what to do at the right time, what to say at the right time. It consists of certain important little laws of good conduct that have been adopted by the best circles in Europe and America and which serve as a barrier to keep the uncultured and ill-bred out of •the circles where they would be uncomfortable and embarrassed.

People with good manners, therefore, are people whose poise and dignity impress you immediately with a certain awe, a certain respect.

Many embarrassing blunders can be made in the public

restaurant. Should the young lady in the picture pick Etiquette makes them graceful, confident. It enables them to mingle

up the forkor leave it for the waiter to attend to? Or with the most cultured people and be perfectly at ease. It takes away

should one of the men pick it up! their self-consciousness, there timidity. By knowing what is expected of them, what is the correct thing to do and say they become calm, dignified and well

man enter first or the woman? May a man With the Book of Etiquette to refer to, poised - and they are welcomed and admired

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Should olives be eaten with the finger or with to appear in the most elaborate drawing room,

a fork? How is lettuce eaten ? What is the If we know whaestions of conduct confront us.

among the most brilliant and highly cultured to do we are happy, at ease. correct and cultured way to eat corn on the people, without feeling the least bit ill at But if we do not know the correct and cul- cob? Are the finger-tips of both hands placed ease. tured thing to do, we are ill at ease.

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AUGUST 31, 1921

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A KING OF COURAGE

the American Relief Administration and the world—for of all peoples in large ING PETER of Serbia died in Bel. the Soviet Government under which re- countries to-day the Russians, in our grade on August 16 at the age of

lief from America is to reach the famine opinion, are the least free. seventy-eight. He was seventy-one

victims of Russia. This document was Recent reports from Russia confirm when in 1914 Austria sent its humiliating signed by Maxim Litvinoff for the all that has been said about the distress ultimatum to Serbia and set its armies

Soviets and Mr. Walter L. Brown on and suffering in the Volga region, now in motion to threaten that Balkan king- behalf of Mr. Hoover. Under its terms said to be like a desert. The director dom's independent existence. King full authority and power to act without of the Russian Red Cross, Dr. Georges Peter had every excuse for remaining at restraint or delays are given the Ameri. Lodygensky, lately reached Paris. He home—his age, illness (he was deaf and

can Committee. There is every prospect fears that at least seven million people partly sightless), the fact that he had

must perish in the Volga. The great temporarily abdicated. But he was not

difficulty is in reaching these people that kind of a king; he resumed his

with relief, for transportation has comthrone, went to the front, urged his

pletely broken down. Meanwhile, Dr. army into fierce action, fired the country

Lodygensky says, we have the pitiful with resolution. At one critical junc

and horrible spectacle in this area of "a ture in 1914 he went into the front

great migrating mass, fleeing like a lost trenches and took part in the counter

man in the woods, in circles, pursued by attack which rewon Belgrade to Serbia,

the inevitable attendants of famineto be held until Mackensen's invasion

scurvy, typhus, and cholera-destroying the next year crushed resistance. To

everything and leaving behind a trail of his high spirit and inspiration of others

corpses which they do not even attempt was largely due the splendid resistance

to bury." made by Serbia to Austrian aggression.

Apart from the special Volga district, The horror of the assassination of

Russia, according to Dr. Lodygensky, is Peter's predecessor, Alexander, and his

partially paralyzed, and this, too, largely queen left a dark shadow on Peter's

because of wretched transportation conthrone. The slaughter of the two royal

ditions, so that the country is overrun personages, the Prime Minister, and sev.

with homeless and hopeless refugees. eral others was the work of a group of

Ultimately, although Dr. Lodygensky army officers. No evidence was adduced

was very careful not to criticise directly of knowledge of the plot by Peter. The

the Soviet régime which he has been fact that he quickly accepted the throne

representing on the Red Cross, it is and that he was supported by the ene

clear from what he says that the trouble mies of Alexander caused his rule to be

is lack of any reorganization of Russia's looked at askance by some of the

shattered economic system. In other Powers-Great Britain did not recognize

words, an insane theory of government the new Serbian government for years.

has broken down precisely where intelIt should be remembered that the ex

ligent minds would expect it to break citement that led to the assassination

down. was not merely, as many suppose, rivalry between the Obrenovitch dynasty

GREECE AND TURKEY represented by Alexander and the

\he war now going on between Greece Karageorgevitchs, of whom Peter was

and Turkey finds its inception thouthe leader. The cause was deeper;

sands of years back. It is the seemingly Alexander supported Austria, and even

eternal conflict between Mohammedan (C) International in 1903, when the killing took place,

and Christian.

KING PETER OF SERBIA Serbians knew that Austria meant to ab

At the close of the World War the sorb their country. Peter stood also for that the work will be carried on vigor- success of Venizelos was so pronounced the constitution that Alexander had sus- ously and with all possible administra- that the Paris Peace Commissioners aspended by royal decree.

tive economy, as has been the case with signed to Greece not only the indisputaThere was something picturesque and everything in which Mr. Hoover has bly Greek area about Smyrna in Asia almost feudal about Peter's career and taken the lead.

Minor, but also Thrace and a large porperson. He fought as a young man in It was natural that the representative tion of Macedonia. Unfortunately, the the Franco-Prussian War of 1870. He of the Soviet Government should take unstable Greeks overthrew Venizelos aided Herzegovina's revolt a few years the opportunity to make a plea for a and reinstated Constantine. The Powers, later. In camp, in battle, and in exile, better understanding between the Rus- which were about to impose a treaty upon he was for half a century. a striking, sian and the American peoples. The Turkey confirming the Greek territorial audacious figure.

suspicion and lack of confidence to accessions, withdrew their financial sup.

which he referred, however, are not be port from Greece, and, indeed, even their RUSSIAN RELIEF IN SIGHT

tween the peoples of the two countries, moral support to the extent of inviting T is gratifying to learn through but between the arbitrary and tyran- delegates of Turks to visit London to

nical men now held in power by sheer confer concerning a readaptation of 11 agreement has been concluded between force in Russia and the free peoples of Treaty. One delegation represent

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greatest woman tennis player that ever lived. Indeed, the game she played under adverse conditions was in its grace, accuracy, and skill probably sufficient to have beaten almost any other woman than Mrs. Mallory, whom the French girl kept forcing from side to side in deep back court play in an extraordinary fashion. But the endurance, muscular power, and determination exhibited by Mrs. Mallory, who is a Norwegian by birth, on this historic occasion, was worthy of the football field. That is why we call tennis a major sport.

Mrs. Mallory has since completed the tournament by winning the American championship for the sixth time, beat. ing some of the greatest American women players, such as Mrs. Bundy (Miss Sutton) and Miss Mary Browne. As tennis players Mrs. Mallory and Mademoiselle Lenglen are without doubt in a class by themselves. There seems now to be a possibility that a personal match will be arranged between these two players before the French girl returns to her home. We hope such a contest will take place. While Mrs. Mallory is an American by adoption and mar. riage, she is a Norwegian by birth. Students of ethnology as well as of athletics will be glad to see such a personal contest. It would throw light on the question whether the muscular

strength of the northern races or the Wide World Photos

nervous grace and finish of the southern MLLE. SUZANNE LENGLEN AND MRS. MOLLA BJURSTEDT MALLORY

races are the most effective in physical The photograph shows the victor, Mrs. Mallory, and Mlle. Lenglen, the vanquisheo,

prowess. There is a moral as well as a before the game

physical power of endurance. Mlle. legitimate Government at Constanti. preme Council should have been con

Lenglen failed to display this quality in nople, and the other the rebel or Turk sidering not only the problem of Upper

her first contest with Mrs. Mallory. We ish "Nationalist" Government under Silesia, but also the problem of Asia

hope she will have and seize the opporMustapha Kemal, whose capital had Minor.

tunity to retrieve herself in respect of been established at Angora in Asia

this quality of sportsmanship so remark. Minor. At the same time the Powers MADEMOISELLE LENGLEN

ably displayed by her countryman Car. let it be known that any success at arms VENNIS is rapidly becoming a major pentier. which the Greeks might achieve against sport, if it has not already become the Turks would not be disputed.

This must be the conclusion of all

GIVE IT A CHINAMAN'S CHANCE Accordingly, Constantine made ready. observers who saw Mrs. Molla Bjurstedt HE thing has never had what I His first campaign was unsuccessful, be. Mallory defeat the distinguished young cause, after having captured strategic French player, Mademoiselle Lenglen, at So said Mr. Lasker, head of the United points along the Bagdad Railway, which the West Side Tennis Club, Forest Hills, States Shipping Board, the other day bisects Asia Minor, he was obliged to re. Long Island, two weeks ago. To be sure, concerning it. "It is a sick patient," he tire. His second campaign has been the test in which these two great tennis also averred. It certainly is. much more successful; he has recap- players competed in the tournament for At the close of 1916 there was a feartured these points, and has held them. the woman's championship of America ful dearth of ships. Fantastic prices As to his farther advance, however, into was not completed, for Mademoiselle were paid for new tonnage. To crown the mountains which separate him from Lenglen, after having been beaten in the all, there was already a German threat Angora, he is not only a great distance first set and in two games of the second, of ruthless sur naine campaigns. from his source of supplies, but is also abandoned the contest in a fashion Accordingly the United States Shipfacing the certainty of guerrilla war- which was somewhat theatrical and ping Board was formed to build boats. fare, a kind in which the Turkish Na- must have been for her somewhat tragic. It has done at. it now controls nearly tionalists excel.

She had arrived from France only two seventeen h:ndred. Its accomplishment As reported, the Turks have now days before and had a slight bronchial in the number of ships constructed, tongained the support of the Arabs of the cough as a result of an attack of nage secured, and the time in which this Kingdom of Hedjaz, and this may bronchitis from which she was recover- was all done constitutes a most notable amount to something material as well as ing. It was perhaps too much, under achievement in shipbuilding. moral.

these circumstances, to expect her to But the Board has paid dear. Its I'nder these circumstances, it is not play the game which has led Furopean (perations have cost the taxpayer about other surprising that the Paris Su. and English experts to regard her as the $3,500,000,000, a greater sum than any

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